How to Stay Motivated when you are a stuck at home.
This is a very popular question this year due to Covid-19. It’s a question I have asked myself over and over again as I navigate these times while being a mom, a wife, and an Entrepreneur. There are days where I have so much energy and get so much accomplished. Then there are days where I feel like the hours drag on, one by one, and at the end of the day, I find that I have not accomplished very much at all. When setting out to achieve a long-term goal, I have found that the beginning is always easy. I am enthusiastic and determined. So, what can I do to on the days where I am lacking motivation? I have found that there are some things I can improve on that will help my motivation when I need it the most.
I have said this before but being consistent and following my morning routine gives me motivation. It ensures I start the day on the right foot, building confidence from the moment I wake up, till I leave the house and head off to the shop. I am working at “automating” my morning routine, where one task is followed by another, in the same order, every day, as a habit. Here’s an example:
Alarm goes off at 5:00 am. I don’t hit snooze. Instead, I take action. I sit up. I get out of bed, walk to the bathroom, brush my teeth, use the rest room, wash my face, put my workout clothes on (that were laid out the night before), put my gym shoes on, grab my phone, walk into the kitchen, make my pre-workout drink, head downstairs to the basement, turn my music on, and begin my warmup!
When I don’t go through this morning routine, I feel off the rest of the day, and I have less energy. When I am tired, I lack motivation, and struggle more than I should.
Setting goals has always been a great way to stay motivated. I like to take some time once a month and set some big goals. I like to visualize the feeling of accomplishment as I reach my goals, the smaller goals to start, as I build to accomplishing my bigger goals. I write out my big goals, and then I break them down into smaller goals, allowing enough time to accomplish them. Reflecting on my goals is also very motivating. It’s easy to get distracted, and off course with all of the responsibilities us mom’s face on a daily basis. That’s why it’s important to make a list of the reasons you want to accomplish your goals. Looking back and remembering the struggles I have faced and overcome gives me confidence to continue and pursue my goals when I am struggling the most.
Motivating yourself can be very difficult and can make it hard to get your work done. During those times, I focus on the parts that I enjoy the most. Stick to your plan and your timeline though. Because as we all have heard “A goal without a plan is just a dream.” Choosing to be successful, then sticking to your choice and seeing it through is very motivational. By visualizing yourself successfully completing a job, you can increase your chances of success. Find a way to make it fun. Believing you can accomplish something is necessary to your ability to do it. Positivity is the basis of progress.
Think of the bigger picture, when you are trying to stay motivated. What will the outcome be for not just you, but your kids and family? How will things be different when you achieve your goals? Staying positive is only one happy thought away! Positive thoughts lead to positive actions.
Stay in control of your thoughts and take responsibility for your feelings. Nobody can make you feel any certain way. We have the power to control how we feel. I know this is hard when you have a 2-year-old having a tantrum over something silly and you are late, trying to head out of the house. Here is a simple trick to practice during these moments:
Relax your jaw. Now focus on relaxing all of the little muscles in your eyes, and as you do this, take a gentle, long………… deep…………… breath………….. Breathe deeply as you relax the muscles in your eyes for just a minute or two.
Now, the problem you were faced with a moment ago, hopefully won’t seem as big. This takes practice, but it does work.
When pursuing our larger-than-life goals, it’s easy to notice your shortcoming, and forget about your achievements along the way. Negative self-talk can kill your motivation. So, remember to remember the blessings in your life and the things you have accomplished so far. Practice gratitude and feel proud of how far you’ve come. Looking back on how far you have come will give you a boost to push on. When you have a small win, or reach a milestone on your journey, Celebrate it! Celebrate your success every step of the way because pursuing a big dream or goal is not easy, but you are worth it.
Sometimes when I am lacking motivation, it’s because I need to approach a task in a new way. Sometimes just getting started is the problem. That’s when the action just needs to be taken because a body in motion stays in motion, and a new and fresh approach might give you a new perspective and a second wind!